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Who needs a partner when you have yourself?
Does he/she meet your standards? Are you in love or are you desperate? In this blog entry, I will talk about why you don't need any partner and I will talk about the fact of lowering your standards due to desperation.
This post would be divided into the following categories:
1. Being desperate for a partner
2. Are you lowering standards?
3. You are enough
Being desperate for a partner.
Some of us can end up being desperate without realizing it. This is something really common for the majority of people including me sometimes so I am going to talk from my experience. Sometimes we get desperate for a partner this can be because of multiple things maybe your friends have a boyfriend and you also crave that love that they express and say they have. Or hear me out sometimes we all need a little spice in our lives and we just want a lover to hang out with and have a bit of fun because we just want something new in our lives. But when we are desperate we tend to you know lower our standards and just accept the first person that enters our lives and sometimes that can't end up good.
Are you lowering your standards?
As I mentioned in my last paragraphs lowering our standards when we are desperate or really happy is usually very very common. You should always keep your standards high. No matter what. You don't have standards? Create them. Stop reading this and get a paper and write about your ideal partner your ideal friends have standards for everything. Because you deserve to be treated right and to be surrounded by people that respect you and with people you truly enjoy the company. But sometimes we don't know that we are lowering our standards. That's why sometimes you need to explain to someone that you trust the situation and tell them about some conversation you have with your lover because they can give you a more clear vision that sometimes we don't get to see because we are mentally surrounded by our idealized version of the situation.
Sometimes also we tend to accept the first person that falls in love with us and sometimes we can paint them as the best version and the most magnificent person in the world when in reality they are kind of ugly and they aren't even your type physically or mentally. So sometimes we need to stop and have a little reality check.
You are enough
Personally, I think we all need to learn that we are enough no matter the situation. It doesn't matter if we are single or married or with a partner or in love with someone. We need to earn that we are enough and we CAN'T DEPEND FROM OTHER PEOPLE.
This is really really important we need to have our own friends in our own life that we can well maybe share with our lover but you need to learn that it's okay to be alone and to not have a lover you are enough instead of finding all the time the perfect lover why don't you work on yourself and upgrade yourself to a point you are self-obsessed? This can bring you self-love and when a woman is in love with herself everyone loves her because she is confident and secure and gives off a good, fresh, comfortable, and warm vibe.
Reach your own standards and then choose between the people to see if they are really worth your time. You are the one that needs to choose and let people in your life, not the one who begs for attention love, and the one that accepts the bare minimum. No, you need to be powerful you need to have control of your own life because you are exclusive you are the creator of your own reality.
hope you enjoyed my pretty swans
by Juls đź’‹
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