5 reminders for your mental health

Here are some reminders that would center you and make you realize the importance of yourself.

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This post will contain 5 reminders and a small paragraph will follow each one.

1. Stop choosing what isn't choosing you

This is one of the most important things in all the tips that I am going to mention. You need to stop choosing what isn't choosing you this is very similar to the phrase"Don't chase, attract" If you stop and analyze everything that you are craving and following you will understand and realize that maybe what you are chasing isn't for you and that you are wasting energies on something that is not going to take you anywhere.

2. Stop being there for someone when they aren't there for you anymore

This is probably the most personal tip I am going to explain. Sometimes people are so special to us that we don't notice what they are actually doing for us because just the little tiny bit of their presence is mesmerizing for u. So we dedicate our whole energy to helping them and making them feel loved and happy we want to give them everything. But you need to stop and think I am giving this person all the love and affection they need but what do they do for me? Are you just giving with our receiving? Are they using you? Are you wasting everything just to please them?

3. Stop trying to fight for someone when they won't fight for you

We all love to defend the people we love and to make them feel safe that is just our human nature with everyone that surrounds us, with everyone that we love. But we must stop and think and ask ourselves, would this person do the same for us? If the answer is no then why would you put so much effort in someone that wouldn't even move a finger for you?

4. Stop begging and pleasing if they don't see the efforts they don't deserve you

If you really try hard for something and then the people won't see the effort you do then it's not your fault. If you are happy and you feel good with what you have achieved then that it's all that matters. You don't need the validation of others to prove who you are and all the effort you have made.

5. Stop apologizing for things other people did

Sometimes we get to a point where we uncoincidentally say sorry for others or for things that we haven't even done just to avoid problems and any inconvenience that could affect us or our reputation. But have you ever stopped and thought about the fact that you are being disloyal to yourself I mean you are losing all the respect you have for yourself because of avoiding problems. Remember you should always go first no matter the situation. Stop being scared of losing people be scared of losing yourself.

hope you enjoyed my pretty swans

by J